Follow-up: Crafters’ Responses
Recently I wrote about not offending crafters by insulting them with thoughtless remarks about their work. I posted a link to my essay on a social media page for crafters.
My post had an amazing number of views on my blog and comments on the creators’ site, most were positive thanking me for writing about this issue. However, some unthinkingly said the same sort of thing to me that people say to crafters–why bother to write? Well, because writing is what I do. It is as much of an art and craft as knitting or crocheting or any other handiwork. It’s what I love. It gives me as much pleasure and sense of satisfaction and accomplishment to finish an essay, an article, a story, or a novel that it gives a knitter or a crocheter to finish a pair of mittens, a sweater, or a blanket.
People take writing for granted, too. I guess they figure that if they can write a comment on a social media site, an email, or a report for work, they could also write an essay, a short story, or a novel–if only they had the time. I’ll paraphrase what some of the crafters say to those who scoff at their work–in that case, why don’t you?
Here are some of the quotes, which I culled from the crocheters’ group. All are unattribute and are lightly edited for clarity..
“..if one’s raised in a good way and have good manners one also knows when to shut up and keep certain opinions to oneself, or to a certain group of people. But also, one must understand that not everyone has got social skills – some people will say clumsy things and not even understand that it hurts other people’s feelings.”
It seems to me that there are people in the world who are unaware that others have feelings, that there are people who are much more vulnerable than others.
“Mostly I tend to ignore most of the negative comments. However, on days when your autoimmune body decides it doesn’t like itself and lashes out with either anger or deep depression, those comments can really hurt even when they aren’t meant to.”
It’s easy to tell others to ignore hurtful comments, for some people not so easy to do. No one should have to hear belittling comments in the first place.
“Crafts keep you inspired and creative, out of the box thinking and many other things.”
Many crafters have more than one skill. Doing different crafts cross-fertilize the other. One craft can give you inspiration for the other.
“…after the Apocalypse, they are going to want a quilt, a sweater, a blanket, some soap, homemade bread, [to] know how to do carpentry, or electric [work] if there is any. All of these are talents that we know are taken for granted but in the long run, they will be the backbone of our society.”
These days the Apocalypse seems too close for comfort. If it comes, crafters of all kinds will have to band together to help each other survive, as no one person can possibly have all these skills. We will have to live in communities and get along with each other. I’m beginning to think I can’t wait for the Apocalypse.
“The perfect comeback for people who say or imply that you are engaging in a ‘mindless’ activity is as follows: “When I get through with my “mindless activity”, I will have a beautiful heirloom item that can be handed down from generation to generation. What is your mindless activity I wonder? Texting? Tweeting? What will you have to show for your time when you’re finished? Maybe you are the one that should consider a more productive use of your free time?”
Sure, you can probably go to Walmart and get a sock like the one in the picture above.
But this sock, and its mate, were made to fit my feet. The toes conforms to my toes; I don’t have to fold the toes under to make them fit. The heels cups my heels; they do not bunch out of the back of my shoes, like the socks that “fit” sizes 9-13. My feet are size 6.5. Very few store-bought socks fit me. When you buy your socks at any store, you have to take what they offer or go without. You don’t get the joy of creating something beautiful and useful with your own hands. You don’t get to design the item to your own taste. You don’t get to hear people say, “Wow! You made that?” and you don’t get the pride and pleasure of saying, “Yes, I did.”
What’s more appropriate to end this post than with “Crown of Skulls”? I love this piece. It’s creative and original, vivid and distinctive.